Expert Advice from wedding guru, Sharon Naylor
Question:
Hello!
I am getting married on August 20th, and VERY excited and nervous all at the same time!!! Like any bride, I want our wedding to be all that I have dreamed of!
I have a question concerning engagment and wedding ring protocol. I currently wear my engagment ring proudly, however I'm not certain when it whether it should be worn at the time when my Fiancee and I take our vows. Should he slip my wedding band on top of my engagment ring, or should I take my engagement ring off at the time of the ceremony, and wait until he slips my wedding band on?
Also, how much is the average wedding cake....we have a very very modest budget ($10,000) and I have no idea how much a nice tiered wedding cake would cost.
Thanks for your help!!
Sue Lewis
Answer:
Hi Sue!
Great question! It used to be that the bride put her engagement ring on her other hand, and the groom slipped the wedding ring on her finger [and then she puts both rings on the right way after the ceremony.] But the engagement ring may not fit the other hand well and could actually slip off! so what brides are doing now is keeping their engagement rings on their left hand, the groom slips on the wedding ring, and then after the ceremony, the bride just switches the wedding band and engagement ring position to have the wedding ring on the inside.
As far as a cost of wedding cake, that all depends on how big a cake you want, what flavors, the design of icing, etc. Check out www.costofwedding.com to get a basic idea of what people in your area are spending on cakes. Keep in mind that a two- or three-tier cake is going to cost less than a 5-tier cake, sticking with basic flavors and fillings will cost less than gourmet flavors, and basic icing and decor costs less than time-consuming, detailed icing or sugar-paste flowers and the like. My book 1001 Ways to Save Money and Still Have a Dazzling Wedding (www.sharonnaylor.net) will give you lots of other ways to get a great wedding cake without spending a fortune.
Have fun!!!
Comments:
Comment From [email protected]:
Hi Sue,
My question has to do with the above question about the rings. My rings are a matched set that actually have to be interlocked together. Should I have both rings off and have my fiancee put both on at once during the ceremony?
Comment From [email protected]:
Good Day Kayla,
First, let me congratulate you on you upcoming nuptials. I am familiar with the interlocking rings and it’s a great idea, along with a cost savings and a uniquely, appealing look for a wedding ring. My thoughts regarding your question is that I would have your fiancée place both of the rings on your finger, while they are interlocked together. I believe between your Matron/Maid of honor and your best man, that they can handle getting the rings together, before the ceremony, to the alter. This way you will only be without your ring during the time that you prepared yourself at the church.
Good luck to you and the “Man of your Dreams” on your special day (and send us a picture).
Take care,
Susan and Craig Anderson
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